We're Rooting For You!

February 14, 2015
Day 290

In the past few days, I've been going back and forth in my head about what to write today.  My goal on occasions such as this is to inspire, not depress, yet Valentine's Day seems to be what psychologists today would call a trigger.  Well wishes and inspirational sayings don't go very far if you deliver them the wrong way, or seem too smarmy or hopeful about it.  A coupled person giving a single person advice is, I've learned, extremely dangerous.  Sometimes I succeed well, and sometimes I fail miserably.

So what to write?

The one thought that seems to have risen above the clouds in my brain is a good one, I think, so I hope you will appreciate the sentiment behind my words...

Andy and I are always saying how we don't understand how so many of our friends are still single, especially the ones who are actively hoping and trying to not be so.  We see they have so much going for them: beauty, personality, and soul beauty too.  They are in our lives because we love them, and because there truly is so much to love about them. 

It may not always be helpful for us to repeat the phrase that's probably already going through their heads, that we can't comprehend how they're still single, but we genuinely just don't get it.  How can someone who makes us feel this special and happy--someone who lights up our lives as a friend--how can they not be coupled up already?  We just don't get it.  Of course there are a million nuances to a person, let alone the stacked up nuances of two people on opposite sides of a small dinner table from each other, but again, we know our many single friends, and we know how awesome they are.  We see their awesome, we see their beauty, we see their greatness in so many ways, and then we see they're single, not by choice.

To the ones who are single by choice, we applaud them for finding or choosing happiness outside of a traditional relationship.  No one should be made to feel less than special in any way because they choose to be single.  But for the friends we've known and know who are single, and not by choice, we're just left scratching our heads.  We want all the happiness of a partner or spouse that they seem to want for themselves, and we can't imagine why their prince or princess charming hasn't freakin' shown up yet!

To all of our unhappily single friends out there this Valentine's Day, please know we're rooting for you all the time.  You're in our lives because we see how incredibly awesome and awesomely incredible you are!  We hope you find your someone special soon, but if not, know we really believe it's just got to be rotten luck!  No one as wonderful as you are deserves to be without someone special to tell you how wonderful you are on a daily basis.  And in the temporary absence of that someone special, please know how much we love you, and how wonderful you truly are!